A Friday question………………

Happy Friday!:                       For all my dear global gal friends (and guys….you know who you are!). Last eve I was with a small group of gals and the discussion turned to how certain niceties, that were taken for granted back “in the day”, seem to be ignored/overlooked these days. Now, I’m not just saying that this trend is only found among the ‘younger generation’. It’s prevalency includes us ‘Baby Boomers’, too!

To get to the point of this rant, er discussion, one of the gals, and DH, are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary and are planning a catered dinner, which will be held at our church. The invitation is for all of the church family plus their personal families. The sign-up/RSVP has been available for a couple of weeks and the response has been, for the most part, prompt. The question is, however, how seriously is an “RSVP” taken these days. This extended invite will involve a meal that will have a cost…..paid if the person attends,or not, or if (at the last minute) a decision to come along is made, how many will that add???

The question: what has been your experience when planning such (catered or not)????? One gal suggested that some will reply in the affirmative and attend only if something more to their liking doesn’t materialize!!! This sounds a tad cynical but,to tell the truth, I have experienced something like this!

RSVP…….”Répondez s’il vous plaît”=”Please, respond”………and honor that response!!!!

End of rant er discussion. Thank you for your time and attention. Please, come back later for the “Friday Finish” and other goodies that have recently arrived to brighten (literally!!!!) up my world.

Hugs, always……….



About treadlemusic

A quilter who rides motorcycle, living on a small hobby farm in southeastern Minnesota. Grandmother and Great Grandmother.
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10 Responses to A Friday question………………

  1. jennyklyon says:

    Amen. I agree with you and do find a significant trend among people my age (Boomer) to treat RSVPs very lightly.

    • treadlemusic says:

      I hesitated to label it as a “selfish”/self-centered era but it sorta points in that direction. The resulting self-respect and respect for others really takes a huge ‘hit’! The “Me Generation” spans several…………….sigh………

  2. Carolyn says:

    RSVP definitely doesn’t mean what it used to. My brother bagged on my son’s wedding last summer because it was a nice day at the shore! We were not amused! It’s sad.

    • treadlemusic says:

      That is exactly the type of situation I was thinking of. My granddaughter’s wedding day (Dec. 3, several years ago) started out rainy but became a snowstorm. The number of ppl who did NOT attend the reception was staggering(!) but had those same ones paid for a concert ticket (at the same LaCrosse venue) you better believe they would have made it!!!!!! Grrrrrrrr……..

  3. sharechair says:

    Agreed. It shouldn’t be “I’ll come if nothing better comes along” ….. but I’m afraid that often it’s treated exactly that way. Perhaps someone could follow up the positive responses with a phone call? To make it more, well, “real”?

  4. Debbierose says:

    Its an issue here. I find it good honored manners to RSVP and if you commit, then turn up. Everyone should respect each other, and treat others respectfully, how you would like to be trested & respected.

    • treadlemusic says:

      I couldn’t agree more and think it falls into the category of “common sense/decency” and am mystified when/why/how this current trend got going!!!!!!

      • Deb says:

        I think back ‘to the day’ when wedding invitations were sent out and you didn’t have rsvp’s. You figured the majority of the people would come and you had early afternoon wedding followed by reception having sandwiches, salad, cake and punch (made up by the church ladies or friends)—now you have late afternoon weddings followed by catered supper and dances; and the caterers need to charge per person.

        • treadlemusic says:

          Yup…..at $20/plate (and more). Our small town was in on the “open reception invite” for both our sons’ weddings!!! The meal that followed each ceremony was prepared/served by the church ladies…….the cake was purchased! “The good old days”!!!!!! LOL!

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